Lost in the crowd...

Do you ever feel that you are totally lost in the art world crowd, noticed but not really seen. My work has been seen by a few but not commented on except for one email. I am confused and a tad concerned. I need to figure out a way to handle this social networking and media better. I am just not sure how. There are all kinds of how-to's but there seem to be too many. I just wish there was a bullet or numbered list of step by step instructions on how to get the stuff done to get myself the publicity that I would like to see happen with Fine Art America and other social networking and media.